When your ex wife starts dating
We just don’t want people to be surprised when his new wife turns up.
Of all the brilliantly funny lines uttered by the brilliantly funny Carrie Fisher, one of my favorites was her explanation of her 11-month marriage to Paul Simon: “Short people, short marriage.” It is perfectly appropriate for your son and his bride to send wedding announcements to family and friends.
Her intention was probably to connect more deeply with you as someone who cared for her husband.
That doesn’t excuse her invasion of your privacy, but it does explain it in more sympathetic terms.
Dealing with your feelings Being supportive Working around awkward situations Community Q&A Breaking up can be hard and is even harder in that odd situation where your friend starts dating him or her after you broke up.
Dealing with this awkward arrangement will likely bring about a roller-coaster of feelings and fears but it is great that you've decided to deal with it rather than ignore it.
So, I wish you could have exercised the same kindness during the widow’s mourning that you did when she provided uncomfortable details during your friend’s final illness.
Should I tell her about my relationship with her new boyfriend? (It’s one of my worst qualities.) Still, they give me the illusion — albeit false — that there is order in our chaotic world; so I cling to them.
But one of the things that’s impressed me most about young people, these days, is their bravery in forgoing labels (and boxes) when it comes to gender and sexuality in favor of more honest self-expression. But let’s hope it’s in the general direction of greater fulfillment.
You may receive a few calls from folks who are curious about the first wife, and they may receive a few gifts.
To the first group, say, “It didn’t work out.” To the second: “Thank you.” We can’t live our lives in fear of people on the hunt for venal motives.