Unhappily divorced dating
So, they rationalize and tell themselves whatever they need to tell themselves to make the other person seem like their soul mate, when in reality, the relationship started off with lies and deceit. You joined because you mentally checked out of your marriage (I can understand why, based on your email). If he is married, I’ve got all kinds of other issues. I think that men and women are on their best behavior and most infatuated at the beginning of a relationship—especially one where the time you spend together is so limited. I hope I wasn’t too hard on you, or that I sound judgmental.
So, the question becomes, will he be this same person in 2 years from now? I truly understand that feeling unhappy and trapped in a marriage can lead to vulnerability and looking for happiness through cheating.
11 years of jokes just made me tired and very vulnerable. First of all, hearing how your husband treated you makes me very sad for you. I could write an entire blog about how men and women have the tendency to repeat the patterns of their parents—some realizing it and some not, some willing to get the help they need to be different than their parent’s bad behavior, and some swearing they’ll never act that way and then do.I don’t approve or disapprove because every situation is different and I’m not there.I’m not one of those people who says, “He or she should have gotten separated before beginning a relationship.” I also don’t say, “It’s OK to cheat.” In your heart, I think you know what the right thing to do is.I get so many emails asking me about whether to date someone who is separated, recently divorced, or even fresh out of a breakup that I wanted to tackle this tricky subject.We’re often scared (even if nothing has actually happened yet with a particular person) that we may be letting our last chance or even best chance saloon slip away.