And, in reality, just by using another guy's lines and words, you're sending a subtle message to your self-esteem that the only thing you can do to attract women is NOT be yourself. But Don't You Need Techniques and "Outer Game" Stuff To Attract Women? So, yes, you absolutely need the techniques and conversational strategies that I teach.
BUT the fact is that you simply cannot run completely on "Outer Game" scripts either - on techniques and routines - all by themselves.
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FROM: Carlos Xuma Thursday - PM Dear Friend, Confidence is the number one concern for every guy I've ever met.
And let's face it, no one ever explains to you how your mind works - or teaches you how to control and manage your emotions and thoughts.
I went through all 12 grades of regular school, and another 6 years of college, and I never once did a teacher tell me how to be more confident. She was tall, thin, red hair, and a hot body that just drove me crazy... We had been dating about 3 months when I started feeling myself go down that old familiar road of "You're Messing This Up!
And sometimes that knowledge will be enough to give guys approach anxiety right away.
If you don't have the confidence and psychology mastered in advance, you probably won't even get past the approach - IF you even approach her at all.
You don't want to feel like other people control your success with women. I know a lot of guys that would tell you that you don't need techniques - that if you have the inner game confidence, then your outer game is automatic. I'm sure you've felt confidence walking up to a woman and found that your tongue was tied and your head got all foggy the second you tried to say something.
And you sure as hell don't want to feel like you can't control your own success with women. You ever try using a line on a woman and have it fall flat - like, flat on its face? I coach and talk to guys every day that learn a lot of techniques and "lines" to use on women, but they don't seem to work for them. Usually because of the level of self-esteem and self confidence of the guy using them. And I bet it killed your confidence quick, too, didn't it?
(Especially when I was just a young boy and I needed it the most! We're supposed to just "figure it out" all on our own. " You know, when you can't believe you're worthy of this girl, and then you start like you're not worthy? Self-sabotage..." First I got drunk at her high school reunion, then I started doing those typical self-destructive things, like calling her too much, and going over to see her all the time. ) She wasn't home when I got there, so I waited in the parking lot for her. I fell into a deep depression after all this and went to go see a therapist.
It's like looking for a needle in a haystack - of needles! The bad part was I And then I went and got jealous of how much time she was spending with her other friends. This one you might relate to: I was dating another girl, Shelly, for a couple months. Until about AM, when I finally realized she was staying the night somewhere else... It was over 8 months before I got out of it completely. I feel a little sick just talking about it right now. During this time, I finally found the skills I needed to overcome my emotional issues.