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“Culturally, leather has a lot of power,” says Sitron.
“It’s a symbol of the bad-boy, motorcycle jacket archetype.” Make it happen: Don’t break out the hardcore gear in the beginning.
You just have to find a normally non-sexual object or action arousing—an association you probably formed in childhood, says Samantha Leigh Allen, who studies sexual fetishism at Emory University.
Related: How to Pleasure a Woman—the Men’s Health Guide to Becoming a Master Lover And in these cases, “most people with fetishes are able to integrate it into their life,” Jacobey says.
It’s also likely to freak out—or at the very least, intimidate—your partner.
But if you’re still dying to share, try suggesting you individually brainstorm ways you could comfortably act it out, says Jacobey. You may find that she’s cool with watching people hooking up in a hotel like The Standard in NYC (known for guests having sex in front of its big windows), or perhaps watching porn together is her limit.
And if you hook up afterward, ask her to leave the stilettos on.As kids, most of us were taught that sex is forbidden—a private act that’s only for adults.“Taboo and hidden things build curiosity—like, ” says Jacobey.Make it happen: In its most extreme form—say, being a Peeping Tom—voyeurism is obviously illegal.Simply suggest positions, like doggy style or reverse cowgirl, that allow easy access to her butt—then if she’s cool with it, give that booty a slap. Let us guess: You’re a dominating guy outside the bedroom.“In sexual fantasies, people seek something they don’t have in reality,” says Jacobey.“If people feel powerful and have an authoritarian position in their job or family, they often seek something very different.” Bondage may not seem like a true fetish, but that’s probably just because it’s become more mainstream. Still, some psychologists argue that act of bondage is simply a convenient forum for often-eroticized objects, like leather.